What do the narcissists really want?

Note: Although, It can't be totally true and doesn't apply to all cases but I wrote the things what I experienced.

A narcissist is person who didn't get proper care, the love, validation and acknowledgement they deserved while growing up. The cause of narcissism lies in the childhood & in the upbringing of a person. If he doesn't get proper care, upbringing, parental love and the affection that they needed then, there are more chances of they becoming a Narcissist when they grow up.
They got what’s called a “narcissistic wound,” or hollow inside them that persistently craves what they never got from their Parents. The narcissistic wound is one of the major reasons for their narcissistic behavior and the act that they do.
The narcissist is unconsciously inclined toward healing of their wound through obtaining pleasure, love, validation & appreciation, but sadly, they’re convinced that the answer lies outside of them. As we read somewhere "An excess of everything is bad" same thing applies in the case of a narcissist as well. The narcissist Loves and admire himself excessively.
They believe that other people (as opposed to themselves) are accountable for giving them these things. So, the narcissists want to be loved, appreciated & admired. They constantly crave for approval & appreciation.
They have no tolerance for any kind of criticism or rejection. They get triggered and enraged with people who criticize them & disagree with them. The narcissists are mostly short-tempered and a  small mistake or act can trigger him.
The narcissists actually need to take responsibility for their own self-healing and self-love. Sadly, although, they see other people as the source of supply and a solution to their problem. More people sympathize with them and more they exploit you till you are devastated.
The narcissists keep on using people to boost their self-esteem, but the narcissist end up being enraged at them because external validation can never heal their wound. Their acts finding a new relationship, getting their affection, gas-lighting  and discarding them , this cycle continues till eternity.

They get pleasure and satisfaction in manipulating, exploiting, and ruining people's lives.
The sad truth is that the narcissist is confined. They’re confident that approval and appreciation from others will heal them, so they never validate and reassure themselves. Their wound would never heal in the cycle of exploiting others to get pleasure, the only thing that can heal their wound is self-awareness and contemplation but, unfortunately they can't.

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