How does a narcissist treat his new supply?
Narcissists are driven by one thing and that is: to get the best supply they can find. The fact that you’ve been discarded is because you are not a good quality narcissistic supply anymore or stopped giving them quality narcissistic source (e.g. You exposed their real face by breaking the mask, you set boundaries, you sometimes disagree with them). Narcissists are extremely expert at measuring the risk and discard you well before they are rejected by you. They are very clever to sense a change in the atmosphere before anyone else does, that is why the discard feel like a Jolt or shock.
Their new supply offers them what they want and you couldn't (Like submissiveness, compliance, disagreement). The new narcissistic source plays their game and toes the line - something you could not. Always keep in mind that, as narcissists need change, so does their supply.
If the narcissists’ discarded source is not financially strong that proved problematic for the narcissist, It is sure that the next source of supply will be more financially stable. If the narcissist needs a house, someone to babysit their children, or whatever it might be…the new source of supply will be better to provide all these things to the narcissist than his ex-supply.
Narcissists pick supply keeping one thing in mind and on priority, that is: how would he or she benefit me? It’s all about what you can give them and how you can benefit them. They would not think about what you need from them.
Will the their relationship last long? Perhaps. They may get married, have a family together, deceive themselves into thinking that they’re ecstatically happy. BUT It’s all about what do the supply provide the narcissist with. The narcissist I dealt with loves lavish parties, expensive cars, watches and all extravagant things…the new supply fills the gap because she loves the same. I am not materialistic and don't like to showoff. Then of course, she is perfect supply for him and I wasn't. Does that qualify me as a person of less values, because of this? Not at all - He just felt that I failed to offer consistent, quality supply. I could no longer meet the demands of a selfish, self-absorbed, luxury loving and materialistic. That doesn't qualify me to be a bad person. I am Happy and more than before.
To be Loved by a narcissist in reality is to be used by him. Narcissists are not capable of feeling empathy, your emotions can't feel pity for your suffering (Inflicted by them). It’s more like, losing a battle, for you. Unless, You are happy to sell your soul to the Lucifer (the devil), sublimate their needs, and live a life of service.
Does the narcissist treat his new supply better? The stage of love bombing feel like the same. The (unavoidable) devaluation of the new supply can take a little longer, this is because the narcissist’s needs are still fulfilled. Once the narcissists fed up with that source of supply and the source of supply couldn't satisfy narcissist's endless need, they will also be abandoned and dumped outside their life - just as you were. And so, the cycle keep working like this.
Their new supply offers them what they want and you couldn't (Like submissiveness, compliance, disagreement). The new narcissistic source plays their game and toes the line - something you could not. Always keep in mind that, as narcissists need change, so does their supply.
Narcissists pick supply keeping one thing in mind and on priority, that is: how would he or she benefit me? It’s all about what you can give them and how you can benefit them. They would not think about what you need from them.
Will the their relationship last long? Perhaps. They may get married, have a family together, deceive themselves into thinking that they’re ecstatically happy. BUT It’s all about what do the supply provide the narcissist with. The narcissist I dealt with loves lavish parties, expensive cars, watches and all extravagant things…the new supply fills the gap because she loves the same. I am not materialistic and don't like to showoff. Then of course, she is perfect supply for him and I wasn't. Does that qualify me as a person of less values, because of this? Not at all - He just felt that I failed to offer consistent, quality supply. I could no longer meet the demands of a selfish, self-absorbed, luxury loving and materialistic. That doesn't qualify me to be a bad person. I am Happy and more than before.
To be Loved by a narcissist in reality is to be used by him. Narcissists are not capable of feeling empathy, your emotions can't feel pity for your suffering (Inflicted by them). It’s more like, losing a battle, for you. Unless, You are happy to sell your soul to the Lucifer (the devil), sublimate their needs, and live a life of service.
Does the narcissist treat his new supply better? The stage of love bombing feel like the same. The (unavoidable) devaluation of the new supply can take a little longer, this is because the narcissist’s needs are still fulfilled. Once the narcissists fed up with that source of supply and the source of supply couldn't satisfy narcissist's endless need, they will also be abandoned and dumped outside their life - just as you were. And so, the cycle keep working like this.
To be discarded by a narc is a gift and in fact the only decent thing the narc ever did for me.
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